Updated: Mar 31
What do you do when you disagree?
What do you do when you disagree with a person or situation? Were there times you did not voice your view and let it affect you for days? Or, did you fight your way to win without considering the other’s needs?
I was working on my goal setting when I started to reflect on my relationships and communications with my husband and kids. And, I identified the gaps where I felt I could do better in my role as a wife and mother. Definitely, communications is one of them.
Whether it is self-defense, hide/escape, or I lose, you win method, it causes us to keep our thoughts and feelings inside us…making us feel helpless and trapped. Or it could be the other extreme where you get into a war to get what you needed.
I’m definitely guilty of one of these at times. 😬
Is it good to always keep quiet…or give in?
I used to have this tendency to keep quiet…to think my needs are not important, or achieve peace is more important.
And the result?
I become a volcano that does not let out steam and one day decide to erupt!
No, not good to be a bully either!
We may disagree and want to have our needs met, but so do the other person!
And the resulting outcome on the relationship with other person turns a little more sour. So, unless this is what you want, I wouldn’t recommend this aggresive approach either.
What about you?
How do you go about when you disagree with your loved ones? Or manager, co-worker or staff at work? Or friends in a dinner party? Perhaps even with the server at the restaurant?
Achieve a Win-Win situation when I disagree
Yes, this will be one of my goals in 2021 with regards to my communications with my husband and kids. I have all the tool kit on how exactly to do this, and what I need is to practice them. I’ll share more in coming weeks of how you can use this simple communication technique when you disagree. With practice, you will be able to influence and achieve a win-win easily….
🤍❤️🤍❤️ with love & empowerment, elynn