Child & Youth Counselling
But, you aren’t sure where to start? After all, this is not a curriculum in schools in Singapore! And, our parents have not taught us (at least not me!) about mindset & emotion coaching.
I always believe as parents, we are the best role model and emotion coach for our child! However, an Emotion Coach will add as extra help for the family, and reinforce the learnings the child already get from their parents. So, any child can benefit tremendously from Emotion Coaching!
Life is too precious to not live your true purpose, and do what truly makes you happy. I am sure you agree…and you seem to be doing well on the outside, but somehow feeling something is missing on the inside?
Is your child or teen struggling with social-emotional challenges?
Has your child or teen been moody or lack of motivation but could not express their problems?
Is your child or teen having relationship problem with others?
Does your child lack the confidence in articulating their thoughts and needs?
Has your child or teen been bullied in school and not able to stand up for themselves?
Is your child or teen adopting certain maladaptive behaviours?
But, in particular, if you notice your child is experiencing one or more of the following, then you should definitely hire an Emotion Coach!
How can Mindset & Emotion Coaching help my child / teen?
I am personally inspired by a few renowned leaders in the parenting field, namely, Dr. John Gottman‘s Emotion Coach Parenting, Dr. Marc Brackett‘s RULER approach to Social and Emotional Learning in schools, and Dr. Dan Siegel’s Whole Brain Child. Ever since I discover their approach to parenting, my parenting style and relationship with my children have transformed completely. Being trained in NLP and Positive Psychology, I integrate the concepts from Dr. John, Dr. Marc and Dr. Siegel to emotion coach children and teens. In my Emotion Coaching program, I collaborate with your child to teach them how to:
Recognize, understand and label emotions of self and others
Express and regulate their own emotions
Be empathic with others to form meaningful relationships
Identify and create their purpose and goals in life
Build confidence, growth mindset and resilience needed to achieve their goals
Ultimately, we want our child to be happy and thrive in life, don’t we?
Elynn has helped our son Alex to significantly improve his emotional management, self-awareness and ability to focus.
Through active and emphatic listening, Elynn first gained the trust of Alex; thereafter Elynn taught him various tools and frameworks, to guide him on how best to manage his own schedules and take responsibilities for his work. We believe the trust Alex has in Elynn was crucial in him being opened up and willing to listen to her.
And we must say we have benefitted quite a bit ourselves from the conversations and exchanges with Elynn, as she is able to put things in perspectives and contextualise some of the behavioural issues and explain what could be the root causes.
What’s fascinating to us is that the concepts are not too complicated and fairly logical, but that doesn’t mean it is easy to practice them! It seems parents often can do a lot better as well; guess it takes two hands to clap!
We are very pleased that Alex is making good progress. Our communication with him has improved as we learned more about each other’s triggers and how to avoid them. Last but not least, we recognise that this is likely to be a long journey that requires persistent and mindful efforts, but it will be super well worth it! Thanks Elynn!
LL Ching and S Tsun
1. Is there a minimum age group you work with?
I generally work with child from five years old onwards, but as long as your child is able to communicate verbally and understand basic instructions, your child can participate in the Emotion Coaching program.
2. How does it work for my child?
Depending on the age of your child, they go through different developmental milestones. In the first session, I dedicate most time to connect and build trust & rapport with your child, and understand the challenges they face in their world.
Once this connection is established, I can move on to help your child set goals, and teach them how to get there. Depending on your child’s emotional developmental stage, some child may need more time to build up the ability to recognize, understand, label, express and regulate their emotional reservoir.
For younger children, the coaching sessions may involve writing, drawing, stories, games, pretend play and role plays.