How to Set Goals You will be Committed to in 2021?

How to Set Goals You will be Committed to in 2021?

As we count down to the end of 2020, it is also time of the year where we start to set our 2021 goals. And, do you start wondering why some people seem to achieve phenomenal success yet you can’t seem to hit your goals? Well, it is not just about setting a SMART goal! In this blog, I am sharing a goal setting framework to guide you how to set goals you will be committed to in 2021!

Set Goals You will be Committed


While 2020 has been one of the craziest year in our lifetime so far, what can we learn from and be grateful for? Ask yourself these questions, which will help steer you into 2021…

What are top 3-5 things you are grateful for in 2020?
Recall 3 successes or progress, no matter how small, in 2020?
How have you taken care of yourself in 2020?
Can you think of the main challenges you struggle with and what have you learnt?

02. Evaluate Your Key Roles in Life

a. What’s Important to you about each of your role?

We all play many different roles in our life, and learn to juggle each role. What are the key roles you play, and what are the values of each role to you? For each role, take some time to ask your inner self,

“What’s important of the role to me, and what’s the highest positive intention of that?”

These values will provide the motivation to fuel your end goals, so it’s important you complete this!

b. Rate your performance in 2020

Yes, similar to how we evaluate our work performance, why wouldn’t we evaluate our performance in life??? No need to be overly critical though, this rating is meant to help you gauge how much focus you need to put in 2021!

Next, ask yourself “Is this an area you want to focus on for 2021?”

If yes, do put a * beside this, and ask yourself how important it is (from a scale 1 to 10, 10 being most important you work on this aspect of your life in 2021).

03. Who do You want to Become?

Take a few minutes to visualize who you want to be come in 2021. Based on your evaluation in step 2, now visualize how you want each role you play to look like in 2021. How does that look like, feel like, sound like?

A few months ago, I wrote a blog on this similar topic. This may be helpful for you in the exercise, so read this post!

Dare to Dream

04. Craft SMART goals initiated by YOU

For each key role you have, set your SMART goal that you are accountable for. SMART goal is a common concept in the goal setting exercise, and if you need some help on this, check out this post.

Once you have your goals, it is super important to check the following two things. If not done, they may end up to be the reasons why you kill your goal later on!

▪  Ensure your SMART goal is aligned to who you want to be and your values of the roles in your life (refer to step 2 & 3). You want to be congruent in your goals to your values.

▪  Check if your SMART goal involves or impact other people in your lives. And if so, put an * next to it and remind yourself to speak to the person.

05. Resources

For each goal, spend a few minutes to identify the resources you already have (skills, attitude, books, people, etc) access to which will help you achieve your goal. These will make your life much easier!

Also, spend a few minutes to identify the resources you still need to achieve your goals. These are things you want to take note so they don’t become a surprise latter in the process of working on your goals! You may even have to start planning how you can get these help you need.

06. Take the FIRST Step!

Take the First Step

For each goal, identify what’s the first step you can take in the next few days. Don’t be overly ambitious to plan every step you need to take at this point.

The key is to identify at least 1 small step you can take in the next few days that will get you going and taking that FIRST STEP!!!

Slay Your 2021 Goals!

I hope this provides a step by step guide to help you set & slay your 2021 goals! It starts with goals you will commit to!

And, for those of you who are feeling a little lost in this long process, let me be your guide in helping you slay your 2021 goals. Contact me now, there is no need to wait!

Do you dare to dream your life?

Do you dare to dream your life?

Before you set your goals, do you dare to dream your life?

Do you set your goals that then bring you a step, small or big, closer to your dream of what you want your life will be?

As I begin on my 2020 reflections and 2021 goal setting, it daunts upon me that I have been pretty sloppy when I go about setting my goals. In the past, I usually do this exercise during our two weeks long December holidays (which isn’t going to happen this year!). And, I often had a hard time coming up with goals! They would end up to be a goal to address a problem I may have, or a goal to “challenge me” and this goal could be something that sounds cool or trendy.

There is nothing wrong with that, except that I have not asked myself what is important about that goal to me. And often, it is actually not that important to me, which is why I often do not achieve them by the end of the year! Does this happen to you too?

So, this year I want to do it differently. And first, I begin to dream.

As I begin this exercise, I started to visualize myself in all the different roles I play. I started to dream a little about what each role looks like if I were doing it at my best. And, I really loved this exercise! I felt like I have given myself the permission to dream and to dare to dream what I want, and not what our society or people around us expect us to do.

Road Block

If you have not already tried this, I highly encourage you to do so! It may not be easy especially if you have this block in your mind stopping you to see far. Stopping you to feel free. Stopping you to hear what you would love to hear.

And this is normal.

This also came up when I was working with my client on the next steps in her life as a whole. When she metaphorically told me how she is unable to imagine how her “dream house” looks like, let alone seeing the path to building it, it is like these invisible boundaries preventing her to even dare to dream.  At the end of our session, I was absolutely over the moon to see that she has finally empowered herself to want to take a step forward, to start dreaming how that house will be like.

And for a few days, this kept coming back to my mind. Don’t we often allow our own self-limiting beliefs or thoughts to stop us?  Definitely me. It can due to many reasons. Many legitimate and rightful reasons.

But, ask yourself – how does this self-limiting belief serve you? Absolutely not well. 

We know deeply that all creations and innovations begin with a silly idea, a silly thought.  And the idea manifests as we dream about it, as we believe it and then take starting actions to make it come true. 


So, ask yourself this. How many times have you stop yourself from dreaming of a new idea, a new possibility, a new future?  And is it because:

You allowed your past experiences tell you this is not going to work?
You let someone’s words tell you this is not going to work?
Or, you doubted your own capabilities and what you capable to become?
You let the big, courageous dream overwhelm you and made you not take the first step of your comfort zone?

And for those of you who are parents, ask yourself:
How many times have you told your child not to imagine or dream because:

The idea or dream is not “realistic”?
The idea does not suit them or align to this society’s norms?  You think they are not going to make it and you fear failure for them? You think that’s silly and a “waste of time”?

Dare to Dream

Dare to Dream

Dare to dream does not mean you have to do crazy things. It just means you empower yourself to listen to your inner self and allow yourself to explore possibilities before you decide your choices and path.

As you begin your 2021 goal setting, I hope you can also allow yourself to dream. Hope this video also inspires you to start dreaming.

And, have I mentioned it is free to dream, isn’t it?