How to Set Goals You will be Committed to in 2021?

How to Set Goals You will be Committed to in 2021?

As we count down to the end of 2020, it is also time of the year where we start to set our 2021 goals. And, do you start wondering why some people seem to achieve phenomenal success yet you can’t seem to hit your goals? Well, it is not just about setting a SMART goal! In this blog, I am sharing a goal setting framework to guide you how to set goals you will be committed to in 2021!

Set Goals You will be Committed

01. 2020 REFLECTION

While 2020 has been one of the craziest year in our lifetime so far, what can we learn from and be grateful for? Ask yourself these questions, which will help steer you into 2021…

What are top 3-5 things you are grateful for in 2020?
Recall 3 successes or progress, no matter how small, in 2020?
How have you taken care of yourself in 2020?
Can you think of the main challenges you struggle with and what have you learnt?

02. Evaluate Your Key Roles in Life

a. What’s Important to you about each of your role?

We all play many different roles in our life, and learn to juggle each role. What are the key roles you play, and what are the values of each role to you? For each role, take some time to ask your inner self,

“What’s important of the role to me, and what’s the highest positive intention of that?”

These values will provide the motivation to fuel your end goals, so it’s important you complete this!

b. Rate your performance in 2020

Yes, similar to how we evaluate our work performance, why wouldn’t we evaluate our performance in life??? No need to be overly critical though, this rating is meant to help you gauge how much focus you need to put in 2021!

Next, ask yourself “Is this an area you want to focus on for 2021?”

If yes, do put a * beside this, and ask yourself how important it is (from a scale 1 to 10, 10 being most important you work on this aspect of your life in 2021).

03. Who do You want to Become?

Take a few minutes to visualize who you want to be come in 2021. Based on your evaluation in step 2, now visualize how you want each role you play to look like in 2021. How does that look like, feel like, sound like?

A few months ago, I wrote a blog on this similar topic. This may be helpful for you in the exercise, so read this post!

Dare to Dream

04. Craft SMART goals initiated by YOU

For each key role you have, set your SMART goal that you are accountable for. SMART goal is a common concept in the goal setting exercise, and if you need some help on this, check out this post.

Once you have your goals, it is super important to check the following two things. If not done, they may end up to be the reasons why you kill your goal later on!

▪  Ensure your SMART goal is aligned to who you want to be and your values of the roles in your life (refer to step 2 & 3). You want to be congruent in your goals to your values.

▪  Check if your SMART goal involves or impact other people in your lives. And if so, put an * next to it and remind yourself to speak to the person.

05. Resources

For each goal, spend a few minutes to identify the resources you already have (skills, attitude, books, people, etc) access to which will help you achieve your goal. These will make your life much easier!

Also, spend a few minutes to identify the resources you still need to achieve your goals. These are things you want to take note so they don’t become a surprise latter in the process of working on your goals! You may even have to start planning how you can get these help you need.

06. Take the FIRST Step!

Take the First Step

For each goal, identify what’s the first step you can take in the next few days. Don’t be overly ambitious to plan every step you need to take at this point.

The key is to identify at least 1 small step you can take in the next few days that will get you going and taking that FIRST STEP!!!

Slay Your 2021 Goals!

I hope this provides a step by step guide to help you set & slay your 2021 goals! It starts with goals you will commit to!


And, for those of you who are feeling a little lost in this long process, let me be your guide in helping you slay your 2021 goals. Contact me now, there is no need to wait!

Cope with the Stress of Working From Home

5 Tips to Cope with the Stress of Working From Home

During the covid-19 lockdown, many people experienced a sudden change in their daily routines. The lines between work and personal have become blurred and hours become irregular. Many couples had to learn to work with each other in the same space and parents learnt to work and oversee their children’s work at the same time.

Although the lock down is over, work from home has become the new norm.  How can we then be in control and cope with the heightened stress of working from home?

The truth is, if you could accept this, You are in charge of your mind, and therefore your results! This is one of the first things Lindley Craig, my NLP coach, and the President of the NLP Association (Singapore), has reminded us in the first week of our Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) training. Interestingly, a meditation teacher once told me something similar too – You have said YES to everything in your life.   The fact you have actively participated or simply accepted the choice means you have agreed to it. 

Applying this principle, how can we then be in charge of our lives and make the best decisions we can even during this unprecedented times we are in?

My Personal Tips – How to Cope with Working from Home?

How to cope with Working From Home

Tip # 1 – See the silver lining in the current situation

This is not about being positive all the time. It is realizing that your map is not your territory, and we can all benefit in expanding our own map! When we do so, our realities will broaden and will feel more empowered with more choices. For instance, does work from home now give you time to do other things you wanted to do and have not been able to do so with the fixed working hours constraint?

Tip # 2 – Increase your choices

Now that you see more possibilities, come up with a list. What is important to you about working from home? For me, the values of working from home came up to quite a long list! It includes:

  • A quick workout (even if it is 15 minutes HIIT)
  • Having dinner with the boys
  • Fetching the boys from school and the meaningful conversation I can have with them during the car ride
  • The list goes on….

Tip #3 – Rank these choices

Rank each value against the other, until you get the top three values that are important to you about working from home. 

Tip #4 – Evaluate Your Choices

For each of the top 3 values, dive into “What does each value mean to you?” and “Why are they important to you?” This will help you gain clarity to what is really important to you.  Not what is important to every one else.

Tip #5 – Start Executing!

Nothing will change for you unless you make the change! Once you have your list, start putting them onto your calendar! I would block time out each day for my work out, or time needed for fetching the boys and dinner with family. These are important to me (hence in my top 3!) and I try my best as much as possible to keep to them.

Working from Home is challenging, and managing this new norm is POSSIBLE!

Elynn Teo | Creator | The Mind Studio
Elynn Teo | Creator | The Mind Studio

From a finance-leader to a coach, Elynn is passionate about empowering others through their mindset to become a better version of themselves and live a flourishing life.  

Elynn spent 18 years working in highly dynamic and fast-paced corporate environments and held various global leadership roles. During this time, Elynn had the privilege to lead and serve global and virtual teams. And, it is through these beautiful souls that Elynn discovered her passion of empowering others to become a better self.

Elynn holds a Bachelor in Accountancy, Graduate Diploma in Applied Positive Psychology and Graduate Certificate in Counselling. She is currently pursuing her Master Practitioner in Neuro-Linguistic Programming and Masters in Counselling.

What is Empowerment Coaching?

What is Empowerment Coaching?

I have received many questions recently about what I do. What is empowerment coaching is? Why do I call myself an empowerment coach? And, are people “broken” hence they see a coach? I thought it will be helpful to clarify them in this blog post.

So, what is empowerment coaching? To me, empowerment coaching is like the metaphor of a lighthouse and a sailboat. The lighthouse gives captain the freedom to think, feel and act what is best for the sailboat to reach its destination.

empowerment coaching
The coach is just like the lighthouse…

In empowerment coaching, the coach is like the lighthouse providing the light for the sailboat. The lighthouse gives the sailboat the freedom to find their path. It helps them to utilize their sails to handle the challenges and reach their destinations.

The Sailboat

Elements of our life
Elements of Life

Our Destination

Just like a boat can sail to certain destinations, people can steer to reach goals.  Without a destination, we may feel lost and lack of meaning in life.

Our Compass, Steering Wheel & Sail

Similar to the sailboat, we are all equipped with our compass, steering wheel and sail.

Our compass is like our emotions and feelings, acting as a tool to help us navigate and orientate our lives. Hence, it is important to pay attention to our compass as an invaluable guide.

The steering wheel is our personal values, providing us with the general direction in life and determine how we want to live our life.

Our sails refer to our strengths. We all have different and unique strengths. Importantly, we need to learn to adjust our sails to cope and promote well-being in our life.

Leak in our Sailboat

At times, our sailboat may have a leak, similar to how we may have limiting beliefs interfering with our preferred course in life. Or, we may suffer from rumination, worry, self-blame, or unrealistic standards. In other cases, we may engage in behaviors which do not serve us well. These are internal stressors we can learn to overcome to enhance our own well-being.

The Water, Weather & Other Boats

In addition, our sailboat has to manage the water, weather and other boats, similar to the environment, life events and relationships with others. These external events are outside our direct control, but we can control how we view and adapt to them.

You are the Master of your boat, you are the Captain

We are all the masters of our boat, just like how we are the souls to our life. And, we are empowered to choose how we think, feel and act in respect to each of these elements of our life.

We are the captain to our boat

Your Empowerment Coach is your Lighthouse

Coach is like the lighthouse
Coach is like the lighthouse

As an empowerment coach, I see myself as the lighthouse providing the empowerment to the captain by shining light on his or her boat. And, I empower the captain to clarify its current position and environment the boat is in and how each different element interacts with other elements.

Similar to the light house, the light I shine is a temporary aid. Hence, I teach the captain how to calibrate the strategies and re-steer its sailboat to reach the desired destination. Most importantly, each captain will learn the strategies to cope with future challenges in their journey.

How are you, as the Captain, steering your boat?

All sailboats need the lighthouse at some point of their journey. The sailboat does not need to be broken before the captain seeks for help. So, are you being a strategic captain and sailing your boat on the right path to your destination? And, do you have your coach or mentor to shine this light for you when you need it?

Elynn Teo | Creator | The Mind Studio
Elynn Teo | Creator | The Mind Studio

From a finance-leader to a coach, Elynn is passionate about empowering others through their mindset to become a better version of themselves and live a flourishing life.  

Elynn spent 18 years working in highly dynamic and fast-paced corporate environments and held various global leadership roles. During this time, Elynn had the privilege to lead and serve global and virtual teams. And, it is through these beautiful souls that Elynn discovered her passion of empowering others to become a better self.

Elynn holds a Bachelor in Accountancy, Graduate Diploma in Applied Positive Psychology and Graduate Certificate in Counselling. She is currently pursuing her Master Practitioner in Neuro-Linguistic Programming and Masters in Counselling.