One simple fact about your brain and emotions

One simple fact about your Brain and Emotions

There is one simple fact we should all know about our brain and that is the way it processes our emotions.  Do you recall the last time you lost control of your emotions and did something in the heat of the moment that you later regretted? This is when “we have lost it” to your partner or child, work colleague, or perhaps the driver of another car. And, you realized later on it was completely uncalled for, wasn’t it?

The Amygdala Hijack

In psychology, this is what we called an “Amygdala Hijack”, which was first introduced by psychologist Daniel Goleman in his book, “Emotional Intelligence: Why It Can Matter More Than IQ“.

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Before an Amygdala Hijack

When we see, hear, touch, or taste something, that sensory information first heads to our brain’s in the thalamus (relay station). The thalamus then relays that information to the pre-frontal cortex (thinking brain). From there, it is sent to the amygdala (emotional brain) which produces the appropriate emotional response.

During an Amygdala Hijack

However, when faced with a threatening situation, the thalamus sends sensory information to both the amygdala (emotional brain) and the pre-fronal cortex (thinking brain). If the amygdala senses danger, it makes a split-second decision to initiate the fight, flight or freeze response before your pre-frontal cortex has time to overrule it.

Fight-or-Flight or Freeze!

At a high biological level, our amygdala is like our super hero! It protects us from danger by reacting to threatening objects or events and send immediate rapid fire signals to our brain and body. Heart beats faster. Muscles tense. Blood pressure rises. Stress hormones like cortisol and adrenalin flood our system. More sweating. And many, many more reactions. To do what? To prepare our body for that fight, flight or freeze!

Imagine if you are in the jungle and a snake suddenly drops down in front of you from the tree branch! Yes, it is our amygdala that helps us to decide in that split second whether to fight the snake, flee from the snake or freeze!

And as we know, many of the threats we face today are symbolic and not necessarily physically endangering. For instance, when we’re angry, sad, or stressed the amygdala thinks there’s real imminent danger. And when our amygdala is triggered and shuts down the neural pathway to our prefrontal cortex, our prefrontal cortex loses it usual capabilities of problem solving, logic and reasoning!


Reflect

Last week, I shared the post about noticing what flipped your lid. Have you start noticing your recent emotional states and notice if there were triggering events that causes you to lose it? Have you been in that heated conflict with someone where you were not able to see broader or different perspectives? Worse still, did you even forget the positive things about that person?

Now that you know about this simple fact about your brain and emotions, what an Amygdala Hijack is and why your amygdala did what it did, do you notice things make more sense now?

If you have seen me 8-10 years ago, I was a very different person. Being in the highly fast paced stressful work environment and a new inexperienced mom, I have allowed myself to be affected by the environment. I snapped at people easily and react to situations instantaneously. I get triggered with the slightest unpleasant event. 

The Good News

Yes, the good news is that we can all re-train our amygdala. It takes time and is possible! I did! In next week’s blog, I will share simple changes you can make immediately in your life to retrain your amygdala. You don’t need to spend significant amount of time to achieve this!

With love & empowerment,

Elynn

Do you know what flips your lid?

Do you know what flips your lid?

Do you have a calm mind or flipped lid?

Let me ask you – Do you know what flips your lid? To me, it is perfectly normal to feel and accept all our emotions. But, I know something is not right when I start noticing my lid is flipped more often than it should have. There is either stressors or even past baggage that I have not let go. And so, it is important to pay attention to this pattern and understand the triggers behind it.

What’s the trigger?

Our emotions, positive or negative, are signals to prompt us towards positive action, take a stand or make changes. But, when you start noticing that certain emotions such as anger, anxiety, frustration seem to tick you off easily, it will be helpful to reflect on what the trigger is that has flipped your lid.  For instance, do you find that your angry reaction is way out of proportion to the current moment? And, what you’re really angry about is not what you’re getting angry about?

Knowing the beliefs beneath the emotion

To illustrate, I was working with a 10 year old client who was referred to me for her anger management and violence in school.  Interestingly, when I spoke with the parents, they have never witnessed her “anger” situation at home. I then found out the underlying trigger for her angry reactions is related to her strong belief for justice.  There is one time a mischievous boy was teasing her friend and she felt unjust for her friend that she ended up twisting his arm!

So, to the child, unjust is what flips her lid. It does not matter if the unjust matter is towards her or people around her.  When she sees, hear, feel injustice, she gets triggered and wants to stand up for it. And, there is nothing wrong with this!

Is the response in proportion to the event?

What is concerning is her response to the event and trigger. Clearly, the child did not understand how to cope with the emotions inside her. And, guess where she learns how to respond? Unfortunately, our children learns from our behaviors. In her world, she learns that when her father is angry, he would cane her and her siblings. She formed two beliefs from this repeated event. First, she is not to cry, as this would make her dad angry; and secondly, when her dad is angry, he would cane. 

So, what’s the repercussions? This 10 year old fights as hard as she can not to show any tears. And, when there is a trigger of injustice, her brain reminds her that the way to cope with her anger is through violence.  Can you see the pattern repeating?

Do you know all our experiences are coded?

Remember our brain codes all our experiences into memories and store them in our brain storage. So, when the next event occurring is similar to the prior coded one, it triggers the same emotions and suggested behaviors.  And, when we keep practicing the same behavior, our brain connections for these experiences get stronger! Whether you are ten years old or fifty years old, it works the same way.  In fact, we have many beliefs that were coded from our childhood experiences and stay with us (and become stronger) into adulthood.

Why is this important? 

Are there times at home, at work or at an event where you had a trigger and gets angry and your reaction to it becomes way out of proportion to the event? Yes, it could be times with your spouse, partner, child, parents, siblings, boss, colleagues and others.

Do you look into your underlying beliefs and understand what exactly has flipped that lid? Do you also know what’s making you respond in the way you did? Hence, it is important to be aware of this pattern and then be aware to identify it when it happens.  By being self-aware of your own emotions before your brain gets hijacked and react in a way you wish you did not is the first step to succeed in your own emotional self-regulation. 

Try these quick exercises to help you become aware of your recent emotional state and the underlying beliefs.

With love & empowerment,

Elynn

Cope with the Stress of Working From Home

5 Tips to Cope with the Stress of Working From Home

During the covid-19 lockdown, many people experienced a sudden change in their daily routines. The lines between work and personal have become blurred and hours become irregular. Many couples had to learn to work with each other in the same space and parents learnt to work and oversee their children’s work at the same time.

Although the lock down is over, work from home has become the new norm.  How can we then be in control and cope with the heightened stress of working from home?

The truth is, if you could accept this, You are in charge of your mind, and therefore your results! This is one of the first things Lindley Craig, my NLP coach, and the President of the NLP Association (Singapore), has reminded us in the first week of our Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) training. Interestingly, a meditation teacher once told me something similar too – You have said YES to everything in your life.   The fact you have actively participated or simply accepted the choice means you have agreed to it. 

Applying this principle, how can we then be in charge of our lives and make the best decisions we can even during this unprecedented times we are in?

My Personal Tips – How to Cope with Working from Home?

How to cope with Working From Home

Tip # 1 – See the silver lining in the current situation

This is not about being positive all the time. It is realizing that your map is not your territory, and we can all benefit in expanding our own map! When we do so, our realities will broaden and will feel more empowered with more choices. For instance, does work from home now give you time to do other things you wanted to do and have not been able to do so with the fixed working hours constraint?

Tip # 2 – Increase your choices

Now that you see more possibilities, come up with a list. What is important to you about working from home? For me, the values of working from home came up to quite a long list! It includes:

  • A quick workout (even if it is 15 minutes HIIT)
  • Having dinner with the boys
  • Fetching the boys from school and the meaningful conversation I can have with them during the car ride
  • The list goes on….

Tip #3 – Rank these choices

Rank each value against the other, until you get the top three values that are important to you about working from home. 

Tip #4 – Evaluate Your Choices

For each of the top 3 values, dive into “What does each value mean to you?” and “Why are they important to you?” This will help you gain clarity to what is really important to you.  Not what is important to every one else.

Tip #5 – Start Executing!

Nothing will change for you unless you make the change! Once you have your list, start putting them onto your calendar! I would block time out each day for my work out, or time needed for fetching the boys and dinner with family. These are important to me (hence in my top 3!) and I try my best as much as possible to keep to them.

Working from Home is challenging, and managing this new norm is POSSIBLE!

Elynn Teo | Creator | The Mind Studio
Elynn Teo | Creator | The Mind Studio

From a finance-leader to a coach, Elynn is passionate about empowering others through their mindset to become a better version of themselves and live a flourishing life.  

Elynn spent 18 years working in highly dynamic and fast-paced corporate environments and held various global leadership roles. During this time, Elynn had the privilege to lead and serve global and virtual teams. And, it is through these beautiful souls that Elynn discovered her passion of empowering others to become a better self.

Elynn holds a Bachelor in Accountancy, Graduate Diploma in Applied Positive Psychology and Graduate Certificate in Counselling. She is currently pursuing her Master Practitioner in Neuro-Linguistic Programming and Masters in Counselling.

What is Empowerment Coaching?

What is Empowerment Coaching?

I have received many questions recently about what I do. What is empowerment coaching is? Why do I call myself an empowerment coach? And, are people “broken” hence they see a coach? I thought it will be helpful to clarify them in this blog post.

So, what is empowerment coaching? To me, empowerment coaching is like the metaphor of a lighthouse and a sailboat. The lighthouse gives captain the freedom to think, feel and act what is best for the sailboat to reach its destination.

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The coach is just like the lighthouse…

In empowerment coaching, the coach is like the lighthouse providing the light for the sailboat. The lighthouse gives the sailboat the freedom to find their path. It helps them to utilize their sails to handle the challenges and reach their destinations.

The Sailboat

Elements of our life
Elements of Life

Our Destination

Just like a boat can sail to certain destinations, people can steer to reach goals.  Without a destination, we may feel lost and lack of meaning in life.

Our Compass, Steering Wheel & Sail

Similar to the sailboat, we are all equipped with our compass, steering wheel and sail.

Our compass is like our emotions and feelings, acting as a tool to help us navigate and orientate our lives. Hence, it is important to pay attention to our compass as an invaluable guide.

The steering wheel is our personal values, providing us with the general direction in life and determine how we want to live our life.

Our sails refer to our strengths. We all have different and unique strengths. Importantly, we need to learn to adjust our sails to cope and promote well-being in our life.

Leak in our Sailboat

At times, our sailboat may have a leak, similar to how we may have limiting beliefs interfering with our preferred course in life. Or, we may suffer from rumination, worry, self-blame, or unrealistic standards. In other cases, we may engage in behaviors which do not serve us well. These are internal stressors we can learn to overcome to enhance our own well-being.

The Water, Weather & Other Boats

In addition, our sailboat has to manage the water, weather and other boats, similar to the environment, life events and relationships with others. These external events are outside our direct control, but we can control how we view and adapt to them.

You are the Master of your boat, you are the Captain

We are all the masters of our boat, just like how we are the souls to our life. And, we are empowered to choose how we think, feel and act in respect to each of these elements of our life.

We are the captain to our boat

Your Empowerment Coach is your Lighthouse

Coach is like the lighthouse
Coach is like the lighthouse

As an empowerment coach, I see myself as the lighthouse providing the empowerment to the captain by shining light on his or her boat. And, I empower the captain to clarify its current position and environment the boat is in and how each different element interacts with other elements.

Similar to the light house, the light I shine is a temporary aid. Hence, I teach the captain how to calibrate the strategies and re-steer its sailboat to reach the desired destination. Most importantly, each captain will learn the strategies to cope with future challenges in their journey.

How are you, as the Captain, steering your boat?

All sailboats need the lighthouse at some point of their journey. The sailboat does not need to be broken before the captain seeks for help. So, are you being a strategic captain and sailing your boat on the right path to your destination? And, do you have your coach or mentor to shine this light for you when you need it?

Elynn Teo | Creator | The Mind Studio
Elynn Teo | Creator | The Mind Studio

From a finance-leader to a coach, Elynn is passionate about empowering others through their mindset to become a better version of themselves and live a flourishing life.  

Elynn spent 18 years working in highly dynamic and fast-paced corporate environments and held various global leadership roles. During this time, Elynn had the privilege to lead and serve global and virtual teams. And, it is through these beautiful souls that Elynn discovered her passion of empowering others to become a better self.

Elynn holds a Bachelor in Accountancy, Graduate Diploma in Applied Positive Psychology and Graduate Certificate in Counselling. She is currently pursuing her Master Practitioner in Neuro-Linguistic Programming and Masters in Counselling.

How to ask your boss for a promotion

How to ask your boss for a promotion

Own your own success.  Ask your boss for your promotion

Asking your boss for a promotion can be nerve wrecking. But, as we discussed in previous weeks’ blog, being self-aware and having strategies are critical to land yourself your deserved promotion! And, this includes presenting and discussing your case with your boss.

Similar to growing your plants, the engagement with your manager is likely to be a process requiring you to plant and nurture your seed before you finally reap what you sow.

Plant the Seed

In the initial discussion, it is recommended to frame the conversation around your commitment to excellence and development. For instance, you could go “I am really excited to be here and to make an impact [list the key impacts]….”. At this point, it will be helpful to elicit feedback response from your manager. Assuming the feedbacks are positive, start planting the thoughts of a promotion in your manager’s mind. You could let your manager know your aspirations and what it would take to get to the next level. Again, demonstrating your commitment to learn and grow is key, so do propose to have regular on-going discussion with your manager on your progress (either monthly or quarterly).

Nurture the Seed

Once you have planted the seed, start nurturing it. This takes time and effort! Make sure you are proactive to schedule the meetings to discuss the progress with your manager. Be prepared for each meeting with specific updates on your achievements as well as ideas to improve the existing processes / systems. You want to impress your boss that you are already ready for the demands of the next level. Lastly, remember to ask for feedback and any updates within the organization that may impact your promotion opportunity.

Patience…

You want to appear assertive but not impatient in front of your boss. In fact, it is likely your manager does not promote you on the spot. Do be realistic and patient. Continue to do good work, sincerely look for ways to enhance your impact, and elevate the level at which you operate in. That said, do be attentive to signs for things may not be going your way.  For instance, do you sense the same level of commitment from your manager? Or, do you notice that others are getting the promotion that you are not getting? These are red flags you need to be aware of and evaluate if you need to change your strategies.

While it may be really uncomfortable to ask for a promotion, especially the fears associated with potential “No”, remember that you are doing yourself justice by creating your own success.

Elynn Teo | Creator | The Mind Studio
Elynn Teo | Creator | The Mind Studio

From a finance-leader to a coach, Elynn is passionate about empowering others through their mindset to become a better version of themselves and live a flourishing life.  

Elynn spent 18 years working in highly dynamic and fast-paced corporate environments and held various global leadership roles. During this time, Elynn had the privilege to lead and serve global and virtual teams. And, it is through these beautiful souls that Elynn discovered her passion of empowering others to become a better self.

Elynn holds a Bachelor in Accountancy, Graduate Diploma in Applied Positive Psychology and Graduate Certificate in Counselling. She is currently pursuing her Masters in Counselling.

Strategies to get promoted at work

How to get promoted at work

Do you have the strategies to land yourself that promotion at work? How long will it will take you to get promoted? Do you have a mentor or coach to guide you through your strategies?

In last week’s article, I wrote about the need for self-awareness as the first step to getting your promotion at work. If you have not had the chance to read that, please read here before you proceed to this article.

As I said last week, while it is the organization’s decision to promote someone, you have a lot more control than you think you have to influence this process. Now that you have the self-awareness as to your performance, strengths and development areas, it is time to start working on your strategies!

3 Strategies to help you get your promotion

how to get promotion
Strategies to your promotion

1. Speak to your boss

If you think that you would get promoted by keeping your head down and working really hard, then you are wrong. In fact, by being pro-active to speak with your boss shows that you are a strategist and truly committed to your goals. It is hence important you have the conversation with your boss to let them know your aspirations, and what it will take for you to get there. The objective here is to get your boss to be your cheerleader instead of an obstacle!

2. Map and build the right network

This is not about knowing every person in the organization, or always hanging out in every social event. If you are an introvert like me, this would be an extremely taxing task to do. But, you do need to map out the key relationships that would help you build your career in the organization. And, of course invest time to build meaningful relationships. In fact, you want them to be able to go like “oh yes….” when your boss or someone asks them about you. And, trust me, grapevine is the strongest communication channel in any organization.

3. Start performing at the next level

In addition to doing your current job well, you want to prove that you are pushing yourself to perform at the next level now. For instance, do you adopt the team winning mindset and place team goals in your own agenda? Do you foresee and prevent problems ahead of the game? And, do you accept new opportunities and challenges readily?

I hope this article will be a good start to help you think of the strategies you need to work on to get promoted. Do speak to your mentor or coach to work through the details of these strategies and work out your priorities.

In next week’s article, I will expand on point 1 and talk about how to be tactical in speaking with your boss about getting promoted. Till next week then!

Elynn Teo | Creator | The Mind Studio
Elynn Teo | Creator | The Mind Studio

From a finance-leader to a coach, Elynn is passionate about empowering others to become a better version of themselves and live a flourishing life.  

Elynn spent 18 years working in highly dynamic and fast-paced corporate environments and held various global leadership roles. During this time, Elynn had the privilege to lead and serve global and virtual teams. And, it is through these beautiful souls that Elynn discovered her passion of empowering others to become a better self.

Elynn holds a Bachelor in Accountancy, Graduate Diploma in Applied Positive Psychology and Graduate Certificate in Counselling. She is currently pursuing her Masters in Counselling.

Why self-awareness is key to your next promotion

3 reasons why your selfawareness is key to your next promotion

Are you working your a** off but not getting the promotion you deserve?

Do you feel unclear of how your progression looks like in your organization?

In my last decade across various leadership roles, I have came across many staff and co-workers who often feel or think this way. And, when I asked them what they have done about it, they usually shrugged their shoulders and replied that it is not up to them to decide when their promotion will be.

Yes, there is truth to a certain extent that we will not be able to control when we will be given the next promotion or opportunity. But, there is a lot more to what you can do to influence this process. And, first, it begins with your self-awareness. Let me explain 3 reasons why your self-awareness is key to your next promotion.

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3 reasons why your self-awareness is key to your next promotion

1. Do you have a good self-awareness of whether you are a good to high performer in your team?

I cannot stress more that this is a basic principle we all need to be aware of. Yes, you may be a good performer either meeting or exceeding expectations. But, the truth is that if you are competing against many high performers vis a vis the opportunities available, then you need to be realistic about your expectations of getting a promotion.

Once you have set the awareness and form a more realistic expectation, then, you can think about your next step. I find often that people do not have the self-awareness of this, and get disappointed when they did not get a promotion at year end.

2. Do you have the self-awareness of what the new role entails?

“I am performing well and should deserve that promotion!”.

Unfortunately, this is a misconception. A promotion is not given solely as a reward for your past hard work. In fact, a promotion is given to individuals who are assessed to be able to perform at the next higher level. If so, then are you aware of what the expectations are of that higher level role?

Map out the role you want to achieve and understand the requirements of the role. Not sure of what role you are after? Speak to your performance manager, mentor or coach to discuss your strengths and options.

3. Do you have the self-awareness of your strengths, gaps and challenges to reach to the next level?

Now that you have an idea of the role you want to work towards to, do you have the self-awareness of where you stand vis a vis the role? If you do not, I recommend you to benchmark your strengths and development areas to the role. After which, arrange for a discussion with your performance manager to go through your self assessment and seek your manager’s feed backs and comments. Don’t forget to ask whether there will be opportunities in that role, and the priorities you should work on to be considered for the role.

I hope by now, you realize that your self-awareness is CRITICAL to your own success. Once you gain that self-awareness of yourself, your environment, your reality, you will be in so much more power to respond and plan your strategies to your well-deserved promotion.

Elynn Teo | Creator | The Mind Studio
Elynn Teo | Creator | The Mind Studio

From a finance-leader to a coach, Elynn is passionate about empowering others to become a better version of themselves and live a flourishing life.  

Elynn spent 18 years working in highly dynamic and fast-paced corporate environments and held various global leadership roles. During this time, Elynn had the privilege to lead and serve global and virtual teams. And, it is through these beautiful souls that Elynn discovered her passion of empowering others to become a better self.

Elynn holds a Bachelor in Accountancy, Graduate Diploma in Applied Positive Psychology and Graduate Certificate in Counselling. She is currently pursuing her Masters in Counselling.

Do you know the ART of achieving your goal?

Do you know the ART of achieving your goal?

Most of us learn and know how to set a SMART goal. But, not many of us know the art of achieving the SMART goal. In fact, I have seen many people who have set the best SMART goal but fail to achieve it. And this is because they have not applied the art of achieving goals. Which is, get it D.O.N.E.!

I have personally found the D.O.N.E. method a wonderful tactical model to guide anyone to achieve any goal they have. The thing though, is that you need to be committed to change, otherwise no model will be a good model.

Art of Achieving Goal
Get it DONE

How to apply D.O.N.E.?

To illustrate, I shall share how I have successfully applied the DONE model to achieve my goal.

GOAL: I want to be able to put my son to bed at his bedtime routine at 8pm.

Challenge: I was 29 and grappling with the challenge of being a new mom and breastfeeding. In addition, I was working in on average 60 hour work week.

Following the D.O.N.E. art of achieving goals:

D: Define and decide the ONE thing

Being a new mother, I had to deal with many self struggles particularly as a not good enough mom. I want to be a good mom, but I also want to shine in my career. I focused on one thing that I really want to do for my baby. And, that is to be able to spend quality bed time routine with him at 8pm.

O: Organize my life

At that time, I used to work 15 hours in the office. But, there will be no way I could achieve my goal if I do not re-organize my life. Hence, I started to define the changes I need to make in order to leave the office at 6:15pm and be available for my baby until he goes to bed at 8pm.

N: Learn to say NO

With my new priority, I had to say no to several requests and demands from time to time. And, there is absolutely NOTHING wrong with it. There were times where a meeting invite comes in at 6pm, or my boss coming to me with an “urgent” request as I was about to pack up. In fact, this happens so often, that if I did not say No to, I would not have been able to achieve my goal.

But, don’t get me wrong. It does not mean that I keep saying no. I evaluate the situation, and offer alternatives. For instance, I would tell my boss that I can see that it is urgent and I could start working on it later and complete by 9pm. I would ask him if my suggestion will work. Trust me, most of the time, it works (unless your boss is an a**).

E: Execute

I have seen people who has their goals set and plans all thought of, but failed to execute. And there would be 1001 reasons why we fail to execute. I could be thinking to myself that I am not senior enough in my company to have that flexibility. Or, I would be worried about how my boss and co-workers would view me if I were the first to walk out the office. But, the truth is that there will never be the best time to execute. So, do not procrastinate and do it NOW.

So…

Do you know why people fail to achieve their goal? The key point here is no matter what your goal is, you need to be committed to it. The D.O.N.E. art of achieving goals will guarantee results, if you stay committed to change.

Elynn Teo | Creator | The Mind Studio
Elynn Teo | Creator | The Mind Studio

From a finance-leader to a coach, Elynn is passionate about empowering others to become a better version of themselves and live a flourishing life.  

Elynn spent 18 years working in highly dynamic and fast-paced corporate environments and held various global leadership roles. During this time, Elynn had the privilege to lead and serve global and virtual teams. And, it is through these beautiful souls that Elynn discovered her passion of empowering others to become a better self.

Elynn holds a Bachelor in Accountancy, Graduate Diploma in Applied Positive Psychology and Graduate Certificate in Counselling. She is currently pursuing her Masters in Counselling.

Is Accomplishment at Work about getting that promotion?

Is accomplishment at work about getting that promotion?

Accomplishment at Work

Is accomplishment at work about getting that promotion? Absolutely NOT.

The PERMA Model to a Flourishing Life

Accomplishment is the last element of the PERMA model created by Dr. Martin Seligman, American psychologist, author and founder behind positive psychology movement. Interestingly, achievement is not just about winning. It is also about how much we challenge ourselves in positive and progressive ways that enable us to further develop our strengths and skills.

Read this article to find out if you are flourishing at work using the PERMA Model!

What is Accomplishment at Work?

If it is not all about getting a promotion at work, then what is it? The PROCESS.

It is about the process of setting realistic goals and planning the milestones and baby steps. It is also about learning and developing skills and experiences along the way. And, it is about overcoming challenges and failures. Surely, it is about winning. As you can see, winning is one of the many aspects of accomplishment.

How to achieve accomplishment at work….

If you are still trying to figure out, these are some tips for you.

  1. Celebrate the knowledge and skills you have gained from the process of learning
  2. Recognize the growth you have gained from the process of failing
  3. Take pride of the contributions and impacts you have made
  4. Be grateful for the relationships you have formed during the journey
  5. Be proud of the milestones and goals you have achieved

If you can focus on the process rather than only the outcome, you will find yourself feeling a lot more accomplished.

Elynn Teo | Creator | The Mind Studio
Elynn Teo | Creator | The Mind Studio

From a finance-leader to a coach, Elynn is passionate about empowering others to become a better version of themselves and live a flourishing life.  

Elynn spent 18 years working in highly dynamic and fast-paced corporate environments and held various global leadership roles. During this time, Elynn had the privilege to lead and serve global and virtual teams. And, it is through these beautiful souls that Elynn discovered her passion of empowering others to become a better self.

Elynn holds a Bachelor in Accountancy, Graduate Diploma in Applied Positive Psychology and Graduate Certificate in Counselling. She is currently pursuing her Masters in Counselling.

Is it Really Possible to find Meaning at Work?

Is it Really Possible to Find Meaning at Work?

meaning at work

Finding the Meaning

Absolutely! Or rather, it is possible to build meaning and purpose in the work you do. Over the last 18 years, I have been consciously seeking for the true meaning of my work. What I did not realize is that I have also been unconsciously building the purpose in my work and that is POWERFUL.

The PERMA Model to a Flourishing Life

Meaning is the fourth element of the PERMA model created by Dr. Martin Seligman, American psychologist, author and founder behind positive psychology movement. To summarize, this element is about a sense of meaning and purpose derived from belonging to and serving something bigger than the self.

Read this article to find out if you are flourishing at work using the PERMA Model!

3 ways to create meaning and purpose at work

Over the years, I have observed friends and colleagues who worked with and without purpose working day in and day out, and who is really thriving at work. My advice is to re-look at this in a different perspective. Yes, it may not be the work you are most passionate about, but it does not mean that you cannot find the meaning. In fact, you can create the meaning and purpose in your work through the will to be thoughtful and practice. Here’s my 3 tactical ways to create meaning and purpose at work.

1. Remember why you work

Some of us may be lucky enough to work for fun. But many of us work to pay bills. Whether it is to pay bills to support our partners, children or parents, we work as an act of service to serve others. This in itself is a meaning and serve a big purpose in our lives. If we can shift our mindset to think of our work in that way, the work we do would become more important in itself. So, who are you working for?

2. Connect your work as contributions to an eco-system

Many of us may feel that our work is unimportant. True, not everyone works to save lives or educate a child. But, all our jobs have a purpose if we look beyond to know where our work is in the value chain and who we ultimately serve. For years, I struggled to find a sense of purpose in my work as an accountant. But, when I finally appreciated how my work contribute to accuracy and reliability of my organization’s financial status, and how investors then decide to invest their money in my organization, the meaning and purpose of my work suddenly shoot up! Suddenly, my work seemed to be a lot more purposeful!

3. Make your work a craft

Since you are in the job, why not make the best out of it? Make your work a craft – ask yourself what skills are needed and how you can dedicate yourself to master those skills. Then, invest the time to achieve mastery….like a skilled craftman! The journey towards mastery itself is usually fascinating and also creates the “flow” that you may lose track of time.

Elynn Teo | Creator | The Mind Studio
Elynn Teo | Creator | The Mind Studio

From a finance-leader to a coach, Elynn is passionate about empowering others to become a better version of themselves and live a flourishing life.  

Elynn spent 18 years working in highly dynamic and fast-paced corporate environments and held various global leadership roles. During this time, Elynn had the privilege to lead and serve global and virtual teams. And, it is through these beautiful souls that Elynn discovered her passion of empowering others to become a better self.

Elynn holds a Bachelor in Accountancy, Graduate Diploma in Applied Positive Psychology and Graduate Certificate in Counselling. She is currently pursuing her Masters in Counselling.